How does a woman understand her husband?

You may ask why I read about eye colors and characteristics, but that is so that you can get to know more about the man whom you say is mysterious. In women’s gatherings, stories abound, and some women complain about their husband’s behavior or morals, and some prefer praise. Some of them are content with silence, listening, not speaking. Among these complaints is a woman who sent me an email saying, “My husband is mysterious and does not tell me anything. If I ask him where you are, he does not answer, and if he does answer, the answer is mixed with sarcasm.” Another suffers from her husband's coldness and constant silence. As for the third, her husband has a nervous temperament, and the woman suffers, and the man often does not care about her feelings. How can you change his style and get rid of these behaviors? In the beginning, you must understand that your husband’s thinking is different from your thinking. He is a man and you are a woman, and you cannot force him to your style, i.e. tenderness and femininity. Men often do not show interest in emotions and are often serious in dealing with them, completely unlike you, my female sister. If you understand this matter, I will move on. With you to the next step: How do we understand this mysterious man? Do not think that the matter is difficult, rather it is very easy, but it requires a little focus on your part, and I will give you some examples: In the first days of your marriage, you were not familiar with his nature and did not understand what your husband likes or what he hates. Then you began to understand what he wanted from you: in the morning, does he prefer breakfast or just drinking coffee, does he like to take a shower, does he hate visits, does he like to see femininity in you? All of these things became clear to you after a while of your marriage. Bring a piece of paper and write down on it the positives and negatives in your husband, then start treating one of these negatives until you eliminate all of them. The mistake that many women make is that they want their husband to be a perfect husband without faults, and this cannot happen. Know, sister, that if you hate one character in your husband, there are other beautiful characteristics in him that you should not forget.

What does the husband want from his wife

• The husband likes calm, not to hear his wife’s voice louder than his own, whether she is screaming at her children, and some women even scream at their husbands.
• The husband loves to obey his wife: he tells her, “Don’t go out, don’t do such and such,” so she becomes stubborn and disagrees with him, doing what her husband hates. This is what spoils the affection between them and tears up tranquility. Then, if you understand that disobeying your husband is the correct way to preserve him, then you are wrong because the man does not like to be a follower. The principle is that stewardship is his, and the woman’s perfection and femininity lies in her obedience to her husband.
• The husband loves an intelligent, active woman: It is in the nature of men to leave his clothes on the bed or anywhere, so if he returns from work he finds his clothes arranged, clean, ironed, in their designated place. I will not talk about his bad behavior in throwing away clothes, as this will be in another topic, but the most important thing is that the woman be clean and tidy, taking care of the cleanliness and arrangement of her home. Some women leave everything as it is, so the husband does not see any arrangement or cleaning, especially in this age of many means of entertainment and communication. A man has begun to marry a woman who is preoccupied with her pleasures and does not care about her husband or her home. The smart woman is the one who cares about these details, such as arranging and cleaning, in addition to her own cleanliness. She does not greet her husband with the smell of her kitchen, which is stuck to her clothes..
• The husband loves to hear Praise from his wife: Always tell him, “I am proud of you. I will never find anyone better than you. I trust you. You show him femininity and prove to him manhood. So if he speaks, you listen, and if he orders you, you obey him. When a man sees that he has great appreciation from his wife, he will not see anyone else, and his eyes will be fixed on her. Try it.” This, and be a true female to him, with her silence, obedience, and keeping his secrets.
• The husband likes to keep his secret: Some women, as soon as they arrive at their husband’s house, become like a rushing torrent, scattering all of their husband’s secrets to their family, and this is a mistake, so keep his secrets. ..
• The husband loves chastity and self-preservation in his wife: this woman speaks to men but her husband does not know, and the other speaks to this man and this woman in the markets, and she may have given her phone number to men in the markets under the pretext of making a purchase or something else, such as someone putting it at a store in order to sell something or Buying or notifying a product as soon as it arrives, and she can give him her husband’s number, as it is not necessary for her to give him her phone number. The woman must pay attention to this matter if she really wants to maintain the integrity of marital life.
• The husband loves his wife’s elegance and beauty: It is not necessary for her to buy the best clothes and the best brands to be beautiful in his eyes. It is enough for her to be clean and tidy, to smile at him whenever he looks at her, to be shy, and to be polite in her conversations with him. If you get married, this does not mean that you lose your modesty with your husband, as modesty is required even after marriage. . There are many things that a man loves, and with your intelligence and careful observation, you can discover these things, and then after discovering and implementing them, you will be the first and the last in your husband’s life.
• The last rule for understanding your husband: study the problem, then analyze it and treat it calmly. Do not give up there. Many men have changed because of their women and their smart style.

From the book Eye Colors and Their Attributes.. followed by (jealousy, the nature of men, emotional sensitivity, self-confidence)